As we were driving home last night, Chris and I were discussing the different personalities at the party. Some women come across as, I guess you could call it, "putting on a face." I would love to have an "outside my body" type of experience where I could see myself through someone else's eyes, but knowing that will never happen, I only have my own perception of myself and what I see in others. After observing the different personalities and their interaction, I can only assume by what I enjoy in others what my personality is like, if that makes any sense.
Oddly enough, the women that Chris thought I would not enjoy were actually my favorite conversations of the night. I tried explaining to him that I truly respect women who embrace the concept of "what you see is what you get." Don't get me wrong, this can be a very harsh trait to have if you have a very dry personality and sense of humor, but given the right mix and bubbly type of attitude can come across as very genuine and warm to be around. Truthfully, I found it very relaxing to get to know someone who says it like it is as opposed to the women that are hard to read and understand.
This brings me to question men's view of women. I suspect that Chris finds it hard to like someone that does not sugar coat things naturally because men are not complainers just by their very nature. Women on the other hand are so use to trying to "put on a smile" when meeting other woman and at social events. There is a reason people call this "chewing the fat."
Next time you meet someone new and have a chance to set your first impression, try to take a different approach and see how things go. My gut feeling is that if you are real and honest from the get go, you might just form a new long standing friendship, which let's face it is very hard to come by.
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